How I got my ex back, stopped my divorce in its tracks.

How to Get my Ex Back and stopped my divorce.

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Just before Thanksgiving, 2005, my wife announced that she wanted a divorce. It was devastating to say the least.

Who has not experienced the loss of someone during their life. Most people sulk, and then move on eventually. When it happened to me, I decided to do something about it.

Maybe you are tired of rolling over and want to fight to save the relationship? If this is true, then you have some work to do.

Ninety percent of all break ups can be reversed...if you know the steps to take to win back your ex. I did not know these steps at the time and started visiting forums on dating sites, asking for advice, calling everyone I knew. Basically, I drove myself crazy for a couple of months.  Once the sting of the separation settled in, I began to really thing about what happened, and I decided to do something about it.

Here are some great tips you can use immediately?

The first thing I did to learn how to get my wife back was to figure out what caused it. I know you cannot go back into the past to change what happened, but you must learn from your mistake, grow from it and try not to do it again. I thought a lot about the past few months, and tried to remember what transpired. Of course I wrote down what I realized the issues were. It hurt a bit to realize that many of the reasons were caused by ME! Imagine that, I was to blame.

It really does not matter what the reason was, you must find out exactly what the specific situation was no matter what. That is critical to your success going forward.

Some of my research took me to quite a few websites that purported to be able to help me. So, I did what you may be doing, reading as much as I can on relationships, and sometimes buying e-books. One of these books cost me over $ 90 bucks. It was garbage.  I eventually found a great guide, and I'll give you the link below.  This guide saved my life. When you follow the plan outlined at the site that I used below, you will get your ex back.

You do not want what you do to result in a temporary fix. You want it to be long lasting, forever, the whole till death do us part thing.

The second thing that I eventually figured out was that showing any kind of "neediness" was totally wrong. Please, don't whine to your partner. Most people think that they need to grovel, cry, yell, scream, all of that. I did everything I am saying here. Its sucks, and does nothing to make you any more desirable to your partner. It will drive them further away in disgust. No one wants to be around a crying nut.

I was able to learn exactly what to say and even when to say it. One thing I found out was I needed to show her that I was in great shape and happy. How? I just stopped calling her, sending cards, flowers, etc. EVERYTHING YOU ARE DOING NOW! When the attention stopped, she began wondering what I was up to. That's when MY phone rang. It was her "just checking up" on me. Naturally by this time I knew to tell her that I was awesome, and thinking about traveling to Vegas. Wanna guess what her first question was? "With who?". My response was "Oh, not sure yet but I'll have that question answered in next few days." That just about knocked her down. A few pleasantries later, I was off the phone. Guess who made the second call! Took only a week this time.

This one little technique alone can plant the idea in your ex's head that they made a mistake. It's very powerful!

In the beginning I would try to be around where I knew she would be, and of course this would lead to some kind of argument. I almost always would tell her that I was out dating, having fun, but it backfired. Eventually I realized that this is a stupid and selfish thing to do. I repeat DON'T DO IT! It will remind him or her that you have found someone else and now they should start dating also. Not exactly what you are looking for right?

Instead, you want them to believe that you really are the best thing in their life. You need them to realize that nobody compares to what you had to offer. By boosting your partner's confidence without seeming needy and childish, he will soon realize the two of you were great together despite the small fight or differences.

One thing I also realized; Don't go to any kind of meeting with your partner without having an EXACT game plan in your head. You must know how long the meeting is to be, what you will say when you get there, and what the topics of discussion are to be. Finally, and most important thing, you must know when you plan on ending the meeting. That's correct. You must plan its end before it even starts.

If you go into a meeting unprepared, or do what most people do (beg, whine, cry, yell, scream, throw stuff), not only will your little date with your ex not result getting back together, it will probably wind up making things worse. You want to have all of the control, not the reverse.

Your behaviors, attitude and demeanor are most important at this point. You must exercise control of all of it, or else YOU LOSE.


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